Of Blaming the World or Ourselves

Of Blaming the World or Ourselves

There are times when unpleasant circumstances knock on our doors, times when roadblocks are set up on the path we stroll or times when things just ain’t going well. We sweat, fret and swear at these uninvited visitors who ruin our plans and embedding troubles into our lives. We hate them. They are not welcomed in our lives. It would be so much better if someone could invent some plasma blaster and send them flying to the end of the world, as far from us as possible. However, that is just wishful thinking. It’s similar to launching a rock into the air as it would fall down on us eventually. We cannot hide from it for if we do they would just snowball into something bigger.

It appears that there are people who discovered another way though, which is by aiming the rock at someone or something else. That move would lift away the guilt, “If it ain’t I who caused it there’s nothing I could do about it, right?” The answer is both right and wrong. It is right if your sole aim is to dispel the guilt. It is right if you are an ignorant fool. It is right if you want your very problem to STAY there without being solved, collecting dust. The fact that how much easier it is to blame others for everything is undeniably and absolutely true. But it is also the truth that blaming someone or something else would do the situation no good. If someone is blamed for a fault, two reactions would be triggered, a defense reaction and a chain reaction. The assaulted would not take responsibility and pass the baton (blame) to another person. If you are lucky and I mean really lucky, you might find a scapegoat or a super kind person who might be willing to clean up your dirt and shit. But believe me, that is exactly what I would call a best case scenario with a very VERY low possibility. If the blame were to be “crowned” on something, be it abstract or concrete, the problem would just be there forever and ever. Imagine you are that something. How would you feel if you are blamed and cursed by what made you the way you are? If the lifeless beings which we blame are sentient, I would bet that they are suffering from severe depression. (Let’s not sway to philosophy and discuss whether they are really lifeless. I doubt my intellect capability has reached that level)

For starters, let’s stop complaining about the world being unfair, the world is against us etc. We might not be the brightest, smartest, most well liked, prettiest or whatever but we are definitely not the worst off either. Awareness of those far worse off than us is present yet not strong enough due to the relative distance. It is precisely because we are not the best that we strive to be the best, because we can’t acquire a strength we would like that we worked hard to compensate by seeking another. These are what which gave us an interesting life, a life to work on, cherish and laugh proudly about it. They painted the dull world with colours so that you and I would not be struck by boredom overload. Humans are weak. We can’t have too much of anything, good or bad, they are the same. They need to switch over and over again like a wave pattern so that we can taste the other more. The sweet became sweeter and rekindles our hope to taste it; the bitter is harsh after some sweet moments but we grew stronger from it and become more ready to face another blow with courage and strength. We need a ray of light to cling on to, a hope to long for and to pursue.

Well, you might say that it really isn’t your fault, the society or environment which you are in caused it. Right, that might be the case. Maybe you are in a place where everything seems so wrong. Even so, just because 90% of everything went wrong, it doesn’t mean that we cannot get the remaining 10% right. I believe that environment can affect us but we are responsible for who we are. Which one is easier, to change yourself or to change the society or the environment? You can attempt to change the society forcefully but don’t be shocked when you get hit back by its resistance. We tend to resist changes, especially when we are satisfied with our present situation. Am I indicating that we should leave the unfavourable situation as it is, even when there’s obviously a problem with it? NO, that’s not what I’m suggesting. When I say “blame”, there’s a negative connotation to it. It means holding others responsible for a fault you had a hand in causing. Identifying the problem with society is what enables it to move forward. But before we do that, let’s make sure we are not the ones who contributed to the predicament. Let’s be worthy to criticize.

What I’m suggesting is that we take some time to look through everything. Take a deep breath, count to three and look into the magic mirror, try to check whether you have overlooked anything. Ask questions like is it really the other party’s fault? Is it really completely their fault? Isn’t there anything you could do which might change the outcome even if the fault is at the other side? Is there a wrong on my part? There’s a tendency to obtain the same conclusion regarding a situation if we think from the same angle. We might even be clouded from the obvious when there’s emotional upheaval within us. Our thoughts are different, it alters through various factors such as time and mood. A space of opinion towards anything should be reserved at all times.

Ok lo…… if you all want to say that I also complain a lot and say that I’m not worthy to write about it…. I admit it =p